Daddies and their daughters
Friday, February 24, 2012
We love the idea of the Daddy Daughter Dance held recently in Hollis and are happy to say that we had no reports of the same issue that arose at Milford’s Daddy Daughter Dance, to wit:
Two girls, ages 6 and 8, were turned away because they had no male escort.
Please understand that we mention this not to assign blame, but to put the information out there in case, even in Hollis, there might be one day a need for a clearly defined policy. Milford is developing one so that parents and/or guardians know in advance whether a child can or cannot attend.
In Milford, the organizers didn’t turn away the girls because they wanted to; they seemed to get caught by surprise on an incredibly busy night. The Town Hall auditorium was crowded, there was a line of girls with their dads or brothers or cousins to get in, and suddenly there were two young girls with their grandmother.
We believe that had the dance not been so crowded, had everyone had a chance to take a breath and think about it, the girls probably would have been admitted. As it is, we understand why the decision that was made was made, even though, in hindsight, everyone, including the organizers, wishes it had been otherwise.
Events that are participation-specific are participation-specific for reasons, generally, and we think most people understand that. When events are that specific, though, there are some folks who can end up being excluded. After all, what do you do, as a child, if you don’t have a male in your life?
That said, though, if a Daddy Daughter Dance were suddenly opened to every child regardless of whom she brought as her partner, others would be excluded because of a lack of room.
So we understand what happened in Milford and are happy to see that it didn’t happen – as far as we know – in Hollis.
It’s just something to keep in mind, though.