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Time to reflect

Donald Trump said young men should be worried now. He said this, referring to those poor, frightened (or should-be frightened) young men:

“It’s a very scary time for young men in America when you can be guilty of something that you may not be guilty of.”

He was talking about his Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh. What a guy.

And here, dear friends, is what I love about this:

It gives “young men,” plus some old men like Donald Trump, Mitch McConnell, Brett Kavanaugh, Chuck Grassley and Lindsay Graham the chance to reflect on what it has been like for women – young, middle-aged, old – to say they were sexually assaulted and … not be believed.

And something even better these men can think about:

What it’s like for a woman to get her day in court and to have some defense attorney question her in detail about her sex life. Oh, the fun.

Or …

To be asked about what she was wearing on the night she was sexually assaulted.

“Wasn’t that skirt a bit short, Miss Jones? What were you trying to say by wearing that skirt, Miss Jones? Doesn’t that skirt say ‘Look at me, I’ve available’?”

Yes. It says, “Look at me, I’m available to be assaulted or harassed.”

But listen, friends, this just gets better: Our Supreme Leader zips off to Mississippi and, in a gathering of people who obviously didn’t have a football game to attend that night, ridicules Christine Blasey Ford, the woman who accused Kavanaugh of sexually assaulting her when they were in high school.

And better yet: Women in the Mississippi audience laugh. They laugh, as if ridiculing a victim of sexual assault is the stuff of late-night comedy.

Phil Ochs had it right when he sang:

“Mississippi find yourself another country to be part of.”

(Which reminds me: Why isn’t the University of Mississippi referred to as the University of Mississippi instead of Old Miss? Or is it Ole Miss? Or Ol’ Miss? Listen to any sports broadcast and it’s Old (or Ole or Ol’) Miss. Taking a guess, I figure it’s because they’re ashamed to be associated with a “university” that tried so hard to keep black people out, but maybe not. God knows, if you can laugh at victims of sexual assault, it’s possible to be proud of racism).

Where the hell do we go from here? What’s the next step from ridiculing victims of sexual assault? Sanctioning it? Sanctioning what, you might ask? Either one: ridiculing the victims or assaulting women. If you can laugh about it, you can do it and as we know, nearly 20 women have said that our Supreme Leader either assaulted them or sexually harassed them, so it’s no surprise he led the laughter.

Should we be surprised this happened in Mississippi? You can read here and there about the progress that regressive state has made through the decades since James Meredith was barred from entering that university, especially in Oxford, where “Ole Miss” (my favorite spelling because you can give it the Spanish pronunciation, just for fun) is located.

But doesn’t this idiocy with El Supremo (Spanish again, for more fun) and the laughter of the women — the women — make you wonder?

From Ochs again, in “Here’s to the State of Mississippi”:

“The calendar is lying when it reads the present time.”

Because how can it be 2018 in Mississippi when women are laughing about the sexual assault of other women?

What if men were regularly sexually assaulted? Do you think Chuck Grassley would question their honesty, their integrity, their courage in coming forward? Or that some moron on Boston sports talk radio would say Jimmy is lying about being afraid to fly because he flew many times on planes? What? People who are afraid to fly never fly? That’s absurd, but that’s the take of a “personality” on WEEI who is convinced Christine Ford lied about being afraid to fly because she flew.

Maybe WEEI should find another country to be part of.

Seriously, though: If men were regularly sexually assaulted would we question their choice of clothing?

“Didn’t you know, sir, that wearing that red tie is a signal that you wanted it?”

“Well, gee, I just wanted to look nice and I like this red tie. It’s my favorite.”

“You slut!”

No, we reserve that for women. Because that’s what we’re saying to women when we question what they were wearing when they were attacked.

“Well, if you hadn’t dressed like a slut, you wouldn’t have been savaged like a slut, you slut!”

With an anti-woman cheerleader in the White House, maybe Mississippi is in the right country after all.